Getting Started: Rule #1 - Know What you Want

After reviewing all my research materials (which I will list out here in a sec) the number 1 most important thing to do when purposefully looking for a cohort is to: know what you want. And not in a "I want a hot guy that is nice to me" kind of way- but a real, tangible listy kind of way.

Who am I to argue with the experts?? See below:

1. Age: 35 -42
My mom always said that once guys hit 30 years old, they are FINALLY out of the pod. Another words, they pay their bills, launder their clothes, have a job, don't live with their mothers and floss their teeth. Well, they theoretically floss their teeth. That said- all the above are deal breakers.

2. Not addicted to porn, drugs, alcohol, gambling or me. Obsessive codependency freaks me out.

3. Be balanced- Work hard, play hard, chill hard.

4. Emotionally available. Nuff said.

5. Be kind. I think kindness is one of the most overlooked qualities. That means, being innately nice to strangers, old ladies, kids and animals.

6. Must: be able to carry a conversation, laugh at my jokes, think I am beautiful in the morning, care that I am cold and promise that I NEVER have to drive in the snow.

7. I gotta think you are the bees knees- and slightly smarter, but not in that asshole, know-it-all kind of way.

I think that is a good start.